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GPL/BPD i fenomen "favourite person". Da li vi imate to?

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Favorite Person (often shortened to FP) is a term used within the BPD community to describe someone who is usually being idealized and/or imprinted on. Often, someone with BPD feels incredibly dependent on this person and will put their needs before their own. They will frequently seek validation from their FP. Personally, my FPs are the people I base my opinions off of. Since BPD causes such an unstable sense of self, I feel like I can kind of anchor myself in these people.

 

It is also important to remember that while it is common for someone’s FP to be a close friend, date mate, or possibly a family member, it is not impossible for it to be someone you don’t know that well. A favorite person is most likely someone being idealized and/or imprinted on, which is not always someone close to you. In my experience, a FP is someone you feel like is one of the most important people in your life. You’re dependent on and attached to them and can’t imagine what life would be like without them.

 

BPD also causes “black-and-white thinking,†which essentially means something/someone is either good or bad with no gray in between. FPs are often seen as basically pure good wholesome people (even though this is not always true). This has always caused me to feel like I needed to do whatever is possible to give them everything good because they deserve only the best. A lot of people feel like they must do anything for their favorite person, even if it is detrimental to their own mental and/or physical health.

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Imala sam,ali sam se zaj*bala. Naime,ispalo je da je to jedan faktiÄki demonizovan Äovek,kvazi-intelektualac,kompleksaÅ¡ prepun mržnje (pogotovo prema mladim i lepim ljudima,pred kojima se nalazi kakva-takva budućnost)...Matori ogorÄenjak.

 

Dakle,ukratko-zaj*bala sam se. A njegova validacija mi je svojevremeno bila sve (a Å¡to je najtragikomiÄnije od svega-joÅ¡ uvek je,na neki naÄin...ÄŒak i pored toga Å¡to znam sve ono Å¡to sada znam).

 

Pa vi sad meni recite ko je tu u stvari lud...

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Ponekad mi se cini da je ceo svet mesto prepuno takvih ljudi. Onako, kad se stropostam i izgubim sebe.

 

Inace, cesto razmisljam o tome zbog cega toliko idealizujem ljude, bez nekog kritickog misljenja, pa i kada takvo misljenje postoji potrudim se da ga gurnem po strani i nastavim da vidim onako kako zelim da izgleda.

Pa se posle razocaram tu nesto, bezveze...

 

Imala sam vise takvih ljudi u zivotu, u zavisnosti od nekog vremenskog perioda, imam ih i sada. Pa opet, imaju pozitivan uticaj na mene i sve dok je tako mislim da je sve u redu.

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